Re-post from July 25, 2015: Dateline -Acadia National Park
A theme dominant this
week has little hint of enthusiasm. Actually, sadness characterizes
this series of events which I will summarize by retelling the story of my
interactions with one individual.
Over my first weeks of service as a
shuttle driver, my shift settled into the morning runs as well as a mid-day run
back and forth from apartments in the north to the Pond House in the south.
Second run soon became one I looked forward to because I met Josh, with whom it
didn't take long to engender a friendship, us both enjoying the gift of gab. As
the EDR (Employee Dining Room) cook, he came in midmorning to set up lunch and dinner for the
employees. He was chipper at first and we became quick conversationalists since
the run held maybe two other younger people, who didn't climb in as quickly as
Josh -who took shot-gun - and immediately began to chat. I discovered he was
from Minnesota - a welcomed connection. He was living in Whitefish, Montana and
had served in Glacier Park a decade ago -another connection. He enjoyed country
music, loved to canoe -having stories of the Minnesota Boundary Waters, and
when not canoeing, couldn't get enough of the outdoors and wilderness through
hiking and camping. He indicated he was a believer; he actually had a degree in
Biblical studies and had served in churches in Minnesota in his early 20's.
So,
we had a lot in common which made our rides each morning rich and entertaining.
Until early last week. Something happened, I'm not sure what. He was coming to
work sullen, erratic, and not his usual 'self.' Earlier he had explained his
physical ailments and a condition involving seizures, thus his inability to
drive anywhere. Medication typically stabilized things, he said, but it was
nevertheless unpredictable. So as he persisted daily to arrive a bit later, a
bit more incoherent, I worried that Josh hadn't got his meds right. In talking,
he brushed it off as being overtired, saying his meds kept him up at night and
he was getting very little sleep. I thought nothing of it, but took note he had
increased his smoking, his eyes were dark and his conversation limited to
answering when spoken to.
Then Friday last week, he
was needing an early ride home from the EDR. I was surprised but accommodated
him since I had to return for the mid-day run anyway. Turns out he was sent
home. He had alcohol on his breath, and reluctantly he revealed his demise: he
was a recovering alcoholic, who had been 'dry' for 5 months before coming to
Acadia. But being here among so many who drank, he found himself slipping back
into old habits, and was heading to the hospital to spend a weekend in detox.
Many times before he had gone through this sequence. Discouraged with himself,
he recounted to me self loathing, disappointing his family and friends and the
Lord, his inability to control his drinking and his worry that it would affect
his job here and ultimately his marriage (- yes he was married to a girl
working now in Phoenix, Arizona, where Josh intended to join her after his
contract ended here, having made enough money to finance a move.) I dropped him
at his apartment where he assured me he would catch the "Island
Explorer" shuttle into Bar Harbor and make the 5-minute hike to the
hospital. I was wrapped in concern and emotionally laden with the sense to pray
for this man.
Praying over the weekend, I hoped to see Josh Monday. Since I
had to run the shuttle Sunday morning, I overheard the employees mentioning
Josh sleeping in and having Sundays off they weren't worried for him. Surprised
that he would be home already from his stay -- I took note of their words and
again prayed. Monday, I did not see Josh on the mid-morning run. Tuesday came
and Josh again was not on the mid-morning run. I was worried his comment about
going to the hospital was fabricated; his alcoholism was taking over his life
again. The whole trip I was in concerned silence, not knowing what to pray
about, but knowing Josh needed prayer, and possibly more. He did show up for
the late run. He stated that his stay in the hospital was 'good,' and they provided
him with additional medication, but that it was making him extremely sleepy.
When I dropped him at the EDR he was late in prep - not only because of his drop-off
time, but the kitchen was left in shambles from the weekend crew's negligence.
It was as though this time he was in over his head concerning his work's
requirement. Wednesday morning came and went without Josh -until the late
morning run - when he came out -looking completely haggard and asked if I could
help him mail some packages - both with a ride to a post office and some cash
to pay for the boxes. When I returned to pick him up later that morning, he was
nowhere to be found. Again, concern was turning to despair as I contemplated
all this meant. The afternoon cooks said he had been fired that morning.
He
came out and got in the van for this mid-day trip to the Pond House, with the
boxes. He looked like death warmed over. I delivered the afternoon cooks to
their work and asked why he wasn't working today. He said he had been let go
due to his seizures and sickness (no mention of alcohol or addiction). So we
then headed to the Seal Harbor post office. I paid for his 2 priority mail
medium shipments. We got in the van and headed back. I commented on his
appearance and asked if he needed anything. He asked for a ride into town and
$15 to buy a few groceries and fill a prescription on his insurance plan that
wouldn't be much. I hesitated, but in the end, I took him to the grocery store
in Bar Harbor. He said he'd ride the Island Explorer back, so I didn't wait for
him to return with his groceries and prescription. It was already an hour past
my quitting time, and I needed to get back to do my chores at home. "I
should have stayed," is what I said to myself the next day, and again on
Friday, when I did not see Josh again. His promise to pay me back on payday
didn't happen. I am in anguish over a budding friendship that I possibly had
let him down through enabling without presence.
Could my staying to bring him
back from town been a key to accountability and an act of friendship that would
turn into a healing process? I won't know but am left to wonder. Note to self:
when the opportunity arises to risk for friendship - take the risk. It's the
godly thing to do, not just the friendly thing to do. Wow. A learning curve
with consequences felt by others. THAT is a heavy thought; a bitter pill to
swallow -especially at such an age as I am. If I was 20-something taking in
this 'lesson,' I might have more life to experience opportunities. No matter,
though. I expect I will have more even now - the question remains whether I
will act in accordance with my discovery. Hopefully, further posts will provide
insight into this journey.